Months ago when you lovely people asked questions, I filed them all away into a spreadsheet for a rainy day. In honor of our first year, I'm going to answer your martial questions.
What is the best part of marriage?
I want to make a sex joke, but I won't. This is a tricky, tricky question. There are a lot of great things about our relationship but narrowing it down to the very best aspect is hard. I value the support McKay gives me and the support I can offer him. It's thrilling, terrifying & empowering to feel like you can take over the world with another person- or at least be successful grocery shopping.
What is the worst part of marriage?
By choosing anything for this question will leave an opportunity to poke criticism holes into my marriage. So be it. The blogging world is a candy-coated world; full of vacuumed living rooms & love notes from the perfectly groomed husband. Mine included. No one wants to blog about the zit they found this morning, or those dishes that won't wash themselves. Who blogs about the fight they had last night with their husband over something mediocre? Heaven forbid, as blog sisters (& misters, I suppose,) we be honest with each other. (Well, that was an intro to the question.) The worst part about marriage is that you can't get out. That's blunt, but it's true. It's also one of the best parts. Sometimes I feel like people get a misconceived understanding that marriage is suddenly like the super hero of relationships. Everyone understands when you & your best friend fight it out. You say you hate her, she calls you a dirty whore, but in the end you hug it out. People get it. Fighting with your spouse is sort of taboo. It shouldn't be. I believe a healthy dose of fighting opens opportunity for growth between the couple. When your lady hormones rage out of control during a heated argument & you think to yourself, "what have I gotten myself into?" It's fine. Once you come back down for your estrogen cloud, you'll remember why you said I do.
What is your favorite thing about McKay?
He counteracts my pessimistic side. I've spent a lot of time perfecting the art of being angry. He is the only person that can trump my rage & make me smile when I'm feeling crotchety. I suppose you could say, he is my other half. Put me on a hallmark card.
More details on your first kiss with McKay.
I told him to keep his lips to himself. He didn't listen and I never looked back.
Did you expect the proposal?
I did but I cried anyway. *proposal vlog here.
Do others ever judge your for marrying so young? How do you deal with haters?
Engaged at 18 & married by 19, people felt the need to offer their opinions. At the time, I didn't care because the rush of being engaged sent me to a high that overruled others thoughts. Now, no one cares. I mean, what are they going to do anyway? Have faith in your choice. Like President Monson said choose your love, love your choice.
I am so happy I chose McKay but I'm even more grateful he chose me. We'll make some cute littles someday.